A common adage goes “Life isn’t a bed of roses.” Sure, life is certainly a roller coaster with ups and downs, which requires that everyone develop so level of psychological resilience to face the down part of life.
Being careful in life or always taking caution does not guarantee a safe and peaceful life, no matter where you are or what you do in life, you will be faced with one trauma or problem. No one is free of stress but what you do when you are face with some difficulties matters to your mental health.
Resilience has been explained in different forms but simple understanding; it is the way you adapt well in times of pain and agony, the way you accept your difficult time and trauma. It has to do with, how well you handle your pain and difficult situation.
Mental resilience has to do with maintaining your mental health during difficult times. When you are resilient it helps you to build your mental health and helps you to overcome difficult times and events. It helps you to use your difficult time to build on yourself and improve some aspect of your life.
But mind you, being resilient does not guarantee stress-free life but it helps you to handle stress well as you move on in life, especially in difficult times.
1. Think healthy.
This first point is very important and this should be the first thing you will do when you are experiencing difficult times. Your thought has a lot to do with your well-being. And it has an important role to play in your feeling.
When you are faced with a challenge think positively. Don’t think the world is against you. In difficult times have a realistic thought. Tell yourself this is not the end for me, this time will come and go and that your present situation does not determine your future.
When you embrace healthy thoughts during a difficult time, it helps you to build your psychological resilience and better prepares you for better times ahead.
2. Don’t blame yourself when bad things happen.
Either you are careful or not, some things are bound to happen and when it happens, never blame yourself. The more you blame yourself, the more it causes you more pains and agony. When you make a mistake don’t see it as a result of your stupidity but rather think about what causes you to make such a mistake.
For example, you did defense and you couldn’t answer some questions correctly which you know the correct answer. You felt bad, terribly bad, and started blaming yourself. This will cause you more pain, but rather think positively about why you couldn’t answer the questions correctly.
It can be that you are under pressure, or you are tense or you have some family problems that affected your reasoning. Rather than blaming yourself, look at what causes it to happen and work on it and I am sure. The next one will be much better.
3. Think more about the future.
While trying to build your psychological resilience, you need to have a good mindset and hope about the future. Doing this will assist you in being more resilient and better adapted to face the uncertainties of life.
In simple terms, put the present situation behind you and see it as something that will pass. Go out and take fresh air, look ahead of where you are and what you are facing. With this, you can wad off depression and depressive thoughts.
4. Find purpose in a difficult and traumatic time.
Finding purpose in trying time is really important. Some situation happens to open your eye to another dimension of life. Some event happens to open your eye and help you find opportunities in life.
Learning from your current situation and trying to help others in order not to fall into the trap you are in will have a good impact on building your resilience and finding purpose can help you recover quickly.
5. Believe in yourself.
This has a lot to do in building your psychological resilience. When you believe in yourself it helps you to forge ahead and think ahead of your situation. Believe in your ability in dealing with stress and difficult situation this will greatly help you.
6. Seek help.
There are some situations you cannot overcome on your own but you can through the help of others. Seeking help always helps in building resilience. Though other mentioned ways can help in building resilience but some people seeing a psychologist greatly help. There is no danger in seeking help but rather it will help you to build your mental health and help your resilience.
Don’t allow any bad occurrence to change who you are, and if any situation will change you it should be for good. Life cannot be rosy at all times. Try to handle difficult times well in order not to be swept away with them.
Remember, as long as you have your life, there is always hope for better things. For this reason, building your psychological resilience is important in helping you live a better life.